
On Thursday afternoon Miriam and I caught a bus from Haifa to Jerusalem, where we decided to spend Shavuot and Shabbat. One of the soldiers who had joined her
Birthright trip nicely picked us up at the central bus station and drove us to the Old City, where we checked into the
Heritage House for the weekend. Afterwards he took us and another friend from their Birthright group on a quick trip to the Mount Scopus campus of Hebrew University, from which one can look out over central Jerusalem.
Shavuot began Thursday evening and extended directly into Shabbat. Shavuot celebrates the revelation of the Torah on Mount Sinai and is one of the three biblical pilgrimage festivals: During the First and Second Temple periods, Jews traveled from all over the region to Jerusalem three times a year – on Sukkot, Passover, and Shavuot. I was somewhat surprised to learn how important a holiday Shavuot is for observant Jews, since I knew little about Shavuot before this weekend.
On Thursday night, which was Erev Shavuot, Miriam and I were among a dozen guests invited to the elegant home of a large American family who had moved to Israel several years earlier. Dinner started late in the evening and did not end until after midnight, which apparently was not that unusual since people traditionally stay awake all night on Shavuot studying Torah. We walked backed to the Heritage House and at around 2am went to a gathering at a nearby home, where we joined several dozen women in listening to a well-respected Rebbetzin speak about the book of Ruth, which is read on Shavuot. Her lecture was over my head in parts, but I still learned a lot from listening to her. I actually don’t even know whose home we were in – the owner just kept the door open and people wandered in and out throughout the night.
In the early morning hours people from all over the city began walking towards the Kotel (the Western Wall). At around 5am we decided to walk around the heavily patrolled streets of the Old City and soon joined the crowds heading towards the Kotel. A constant stream of people flowed through the plaza’s security gates. The sight at the Kotel was unforgettable: The entire plaza in front of the Wall was packed with thousands and thousands of people.
The crowd buzzed with the sounds of so many people davening (praying). Farther away from the Wall, non-Orthodox Jews congregated to hold mixed-gendered prayer services, which are not possible to hold at the Wall itself since a mehitzah (barrier) divides the men and women’s sides. Children as well as adults hung out towards the back of the plaza to talk and doze off. Near the northern exit, yeshiva and seminary students handed out bottled water and packaged snacks; they must have had a huge supply. Around 6:30am, Miriam and I joined dozens of other college/grad students at an early morning breakfast gathering in the Old City. When Heritage House re-opened its doors at 7:30am, we finally went to bed.
On Friday evening we were guests at the home of a young American couple for Shabbat dinner, along with five seminary girls. Miriam and I were the same age as the wife, yet she seemed a lot more mature in many ways; she had a home, was about to have her first a child, and had prepared an elaborate Shabbat dinner for her husband and guests. Both she and her husband made us feel totally welcome in their home, even though we were essentially total strangers. It was interesting to spend the evening with them and their guests, some of whom were also from New York but from a different world culturally and religiously.
Getting to the apartment itself turned out to be less enjoyable. In order to get to their apartment, which was located in a neighborhood north of the Old City, we had to follow two young men who had been corralled into leading a group of us there. I guess the most direct path was through the eastern section of the Old City, and before I knew it we were embedded in a thick crowd of people heading home for Shabbat dinner through the dark, heavily littered streets of the Muslim Quarter. I had been to the Muslim Quarter plenty of times before during the daytime, but I had been warned repeatedly not to wander into the Muslim Quarter at night. There was no way out however, so we had little choice but to try to keep up with the two young men who had darted ahead in the fast-moving crowd. We emerged unscathed through the Damascus Gate, although unfortunately a yeshiva student the previous week had not been so lucky. In retrospect it was an imprudent if memorable adventure, but I have no intention of a repeat performance.
On Saturday afternoon we ended up having the most interesting of all our hospitality experiences when we went to lunch at the couth vacation apartment of an Orthodox British couple. We were there for over four hours and met dozens of members of their extended family, many of whom were visiting from Europe for the holiday. I was quite surprised at how young several of the mothers were, despite hailing from well-off, well-educated families. Actually it felt as if that afternoon involved one culture shock after another!
Many of the young adults who participate in the Heritage House’s Shabbat/holiday hospitality programs did not grow up in Orthodox families, and most of the people whose homes I went to did not seem interested in “converting” me to Orthodoxy. Actually, I’m not sure whether most of my hosts knew that I am not Orthodox, and I think our British hostess was as surprised as we were to discover that she had incorrectly assumed that Miriam and I were frum, i.e. (ultra) Orthodox. In hospitality situations I never pretended to be more knowledgeable or observant than I actually am, but nor did I usually disclose, muchless broadcast, my Reform upbringing.
When I hear Orthodox Jews speak critically of the Reform movement, part of me wants to defend Reform Judaism for its inclusive social values and community involvement. Yet many of their criticisms ring uncomfortably true: in retrospect I look back on my Reform religous education with amazement at how little I actually learned about Judaism. My classmates and I managed to emerge from years of religious school with no knowledge of Halakhah, only a cursory understanding of the major Jewish holidays, and a rudimentary ability to sound out Hebrew words. Fortunately for me that wasn’t the end of my Jewish education, although it easily could have been.
On Saturday evening we gathered at the men’s hostel, where we had the third meal and
Havdalah. Ironically I discovered that the young woman sitting across the table from me had also graduated from Williams. Williams is a small college, yet I seem to run into fellow graduates everywhere. After Havdalah, Miriam and I headed to Ben Yehuda Street a heavily touristed commercial street in Jerusalem. We passed an Asian choir singing in Hebrew (at least, I’m pretty sure that’s the language they were singing in) and a group of young Rebbe Nachman followers dancing joyously around their quasi-psychedelic music-playing mobile (see photo below). As lively and festive as Ben Yehuda Street is, it’s hard to totally forget that the area has been the target of multiple terrorist attacks in recent years.

We stayed at Heritage House on Saturday night so that we could attend classes at
Neve Yerushalayim, a seminary for young women, on Sunday morning. I was sort of envisioning a Sunday School-like scenario, so I was skeptical that I would find the classes particularly interesting. To my surprise however, both classes were very compelling, and I found myself wishing that I could spend more time there. Somehow I'll just have to find a way to go back!